“Family” is typically defined as people who are related to you by blood or marriage.
It includes your spouse, kids, parents, siblings, sister-in-law, etc.
But my definition of “family” goes beyond tradition and includes others.
My definition includes dear friends whom I trust and enjoy being around.
They’re friends who have celebrated my successes and supported me through difficult times.
My definition also includes those I was once related to by marriage.
After a divorce, is it required to cut ties with your ex’s family members even though there’s a bond?
I chose not to cut ties with some and continued to nurture those relationships.
My definition also includes my pet, a huge part of my life.
I spend more time with my pet than I do with my spouse (mainly because every day is “bring your dog to work” day for me).
From life, I’ve learned that some relationships are hard to categorize.
Some social media sites ask you to identify relationships by assigning a label to the individual.
But I won’t conform to the traditional definition of “family.”
The scars on my soul have allowed me to decide who is close enough to call “family.”
Some family members say, “Friends come and go, but family will always be there for you.”
Unfortunately, my experience has shown that statement to be untrue.
I have family members who have no idea what’s happening in my life.
For those individuals, I say we’re “related.”
I reserve the term “family” for those who are there and make an effort to stay in touch.
These individuals are important to me.
They understand relationships go both ways.
They share laughter, celebrations, sorrow, and many other moments with me.
For me, I don’t see “family” as a classification but more as a term of endearment.
Have you expanded your concept of “family” beyond the traditional definition?
Do you consider your close friends as family members?
Do you include your pet as part of the family?
At the end of the day, it really doesn’t matter what term you use, just as long as those individuals know you value them.
Healthy personal relationships contribute to a long and happy life.
These bonds lower our stress levels and give us a sense of purpose to keep moving forward.
Make time for these important individuals in your life.
(Update to original post from June 5, 2023)
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Niv Persaud, CFP®, CDFA®, RICP®, is a Managing Director at Transition Planning & Guidance, LLC. Life is more than money. It’s about living the lifestyle you want and can afford. For that reason, Niv consults with clients on money, life, and work. Her approach capitalizes on techniques she learned throughout her career, including as a management consultant, executive recruiter, and financial advisor. Her services include developing comprehensive financial plans, divorce financial reviews, and retirement plans. Niv actively gives back to her community through her volunteer efforts. She believes in living life to the fullest by cherishing friendships, enjoying the beauty of nature and laughing often — even at herself. Her favorite quote is by Erma Bombeck, “When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say ‘I used everything you gave me.’”