Are you stuck?
Are you focusing on what didn’t work out in life?
If you answered “yes,” then today is your day.
It’s time to stop reliving your disappointment.
It’s time to get unstuck.
Begin by identifying ONE thing you want to change in your life.
Keep in mind it has to be something Y-O-U have control over – you can’t change the past, you can’t change a person.
What do you have control over?
You have control over your attitude and response to things in your life.
Also, you have control over your actions.
Write down what you want to change in life.
Place it where you can view it every day, ideally where you can view it multiple times a day.
Write it on a piece of paper and tape it next to your laptop. Or make it your phone wallpaper.
Once you’ve identified what you want to change then take action.
Let a trusted family member or friend know what you are doing. Ask for their help to keep you accountable.
With this purpose in mind, they may have ideas on how you can achieve that one thing you are changing about yourself.
If finding someone to help you is challenging, hire a professional. There are many apps for coaches available for a fee.
If you still have difficulty getting unstuck, give yourself 15 minutes every day to dwell in self-pity.
Set your timer and begin.
When your timer goes off, readjust your mindset and refocus on the one thing you are trying to change in your life.
Additionally, read motivational quotes and inspirational books to help transition your mindset and build positive energy.
It isn’t easy to get unstuck. But once you let go of the past, you open the doors for a better and brighter future.
It takes one day at a time. Be patient with yourself.
And remain PEF (positive, enthusiastic, and focused)!
(Update to original post from June 27, 2013)
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Niv Persaud, CFP®, CDFA®, RICP®, is a Managing Director at Transition Planning & Guidance, LLC. Life is more than money. It’s about living the lifestyle you want and can afford. For that reason, Niv consults with clients on money, life, and work. Her approach capitalizes on techniques she learned throughout her career, including as a management consultant, executive recruiter, and financial advisor. Her services include developing comprehensive financial plans, divorce financial reviews, and retirement plans. Niv actively gives back to her community through her volunteer efforts. She believes in living life to the fullest by cherishing friendships, enjoying the beauty of nature and laughing often — even at herself. Her favorite quote is by Erma Bombeck, “When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say ‘I used everything you gave me.’”