When going through a divorce, it’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. You’re juggling emotional and financial issues which at times can be overwhelming.

Some people find themselves completely shutting down and wanting to sleep all the time. Others may become so busy with life that they postpone dealing with their emotions.

Think of life after your divorce as a fresh start. It’s a time for you to redefine what you want from life. Use the 5 P’s of Life to help you through this process. Give yourself permission to take ownership of your life.

The 5 P’s of Life are personal relationships, personal finance, profession, peace of mind, and physical health.For each category, brainstorm what you want to do in life. To start, ask yourself these questions.

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Are their friendships you want to rebuild?

Would you like to expand your social circle?

Do you want to re-establish family relationships?[/styled_box]

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Do you want to learn how to manage your money better?

Have you updated legal and financial documents, including your Will, digital legacy, and health care directives?

Are you saving enough to afford the retirement lifestyle you envision for yourself?[/styled_box]

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Do you want to pursue an advanced degree?

Would you like a more challenging role in your firm or at a new firm?

Have you considered expanding your leadership skills through a community organization? [/styled_box]

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Is there a second language you’d like to learn?

Have you considered traveling solo?

Would you like to take a cooking class?[/styled_box]

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Do you need to live a healthier lifestyle?

Is there a social sport you’d like to learn (e.g., golf, tennis)?

Do you need to improve your quality of sleep?[/styled_box]

At first, it may be difficult to think of things you want to do. But the more often you ask yourself these questions, the deeper you’ll dig to discover who you really are. Enjoy this journey, no matter how frustrating it can be. And remember, stay PEF (positive, enthused, focused)!

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Niv Persaud, CFP®, CDFA™, CRPC®, is the Founder of Transition Planning & Guidance, LLC. Life is more than money. It’s about living the lifestyle you want and can afford. For that reason, Niv consults with clients on money, life, and work. Her approach capitalizes on techniques she learned throughout her career, including as a management consultant, executive recruiter, and financial advisor. Her services include spending plan, financial plan, divorce financial review, life strategy, and professional progression. Niv actively gives back to her community through her volunteer efforts. She believes in living life to the fullest by cherishing friendships, enjoying the beauty of nature and laughing often — even at herself. Her favorite quote is by Erma Bombeck, “When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say ‘I used everything you gave me’.”