It never fails. Before retirement, we have grandiose ideas of how much we will accomplish when we no longer work.
We have on our list all the home projects we couldn’t get to when we were working.
We have a list of friends and family members we will visit more frequently.
We may even have a list of volunteer opportunities we want to participate in to give back to our community.
But something happens when you hit retirement.
All of a sudden, you’re busier than when you were working.
It’s a phenomenon most of my retired clients struggle with when they enter retirement.
What causes time to move suddenly in fast-forward mode?
Many times, it’s committing to do things you were not planning to do.
Now that you’re retired, others assume you have a lot of free time.
With this assumption, they ask for your help.
On your end, you realize you do have more time, and you readily accept their request.
Before you know it, your time is consumed with things you were not planning to do in retirement.
How do you take control of this phenomenon?
Begin by learning to say “no” in retirement.
Practice in front of a mirror saying “no” with a smile.
Most people wouldn’t even ask for your help if you were still working.
It’s up to you to manage their expectation. They assume you have nothing to do other than to help them.
If saying “no” is uncomfortable for you, then start by scheduling things on your calendar.
Let’s say you were normally at work from 8 AM until 6 PM.
Begin filling in that time with things you need to accomplish.
And remember, things always take longer than anticipated – especially home projects.
Include in your scheduling the time you’ve committed to visit friends and family. In this way, you keep those commitments.
Instead of saying “no,” you can now say, “Let me check my calendar and get back to you.”
Another option is to say, “I wish I could help, but I already have a commitment at that time.”
The more you say these phrases, the easier it becomes to say them.
You’ll also be a better person to be around because you’re not overwhelmed with obligations.
You’ve taken control of your time and can now focus your energy where you want it to go.
Of course, things come up – for instance, your aging mother may need help after a fall.
Or your daughter has a last-minute work meeting and needs your help picking up her kids.
Knowing life is life, refrain from scheduling every minute.
Leave space in between to give you some breathing room.
We all look forward to retirement because work no longer consumes our time.
It’s a time we can spend with loved ones and help them with their life.
However, it can become overwhelming when you lose control of your time.
Take back control by learning to say “no” in retirement.
(Update to original post from June 11, 2018)
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Niv Persaud, CFP®, is the Founder of Transition Planning & Guidance, LLC (TransitionPG®). She believes life is more than accumulating money – it’s about living the lifestyle you envision and can afford. Niv incorporates all aspects of life when discussing money. She developed the 5 P’s of Life (Personal Relationships, Personal Finance, Profession, Peace of Mind, and Physical Health) to help clients define what they want from life. Once she understands their vision, she helps them achieve their lifestyle or adjust their expectations based on their finances. Niv actively gives back to the community through her volunteer efforts. She believes in living life to the fullest by cherishing friendships, exploring the world, and laughing often—even at herself. Her favorite quote is by Erma Bombeck, “When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say ‘I used everything you gave me.’” Click HERE to read where she’s been quoted in the media.
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