“Birds of a feather flock together” – how often have you heard that phrase?
When it comes to choosing your friends, this saying rings particularly true.
During your teenage years, your parents probably said that phrase when they were frustrated with the friends you chose to hang out with – mainly because you would get into trouble with them, right?
Essentially, “birds of a feather flock together” means people of similar interests will choose to spend time together.
The key word is “choose” – you can choose your friends (unlike family members you’re stuck with).
But what if you make poor choices in friends?
Do you have “true” friends?
Or do you have friends who encapsulate a lifestyle you aspire to be in, causing you to overspend?
Ask yourself these questions to determine if you have true friends:
Are your friends encouraging you to stretch and accomplish what you want in life?
Do they emotionally support you, especially during difficult times?
Are your friends helping you be a better person?
Keep in mind, your friends are not perfect (face it, you’re not either!).
However, they should be adding value – whether your friend is your constant cheerleader, your voice of reason, or even the shoulder you cry on when things don’t go your way.
Choose your friends wisely to surround yourself with people who will help you become everything you are striving to become in life.
And remember, to keep a true friend, you need to be a true friend.
(Update to original post from August 26, 2013)
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Niv Persaud, CFP®, CDFA®, RICP®, is a Managing Director at Transition Planning & Guidance, LLC. Life is more than money. It’s about living the lifestyle you want and can afford. For that reason, Niv consults with clients on money, life, and work. Her approach capitalizes on techniques she learned throughout her career, including as a management consultant, executive recruiter, and financial advisor. Her services include developing comprehensive financial plans, divorce financial reviews, and retirement plans. Niv actively gives back to her community through her volunteer efforts. She believes in living life to the fullest by cherishing friendships, enjoying the beauty of nature and laughing often — even at herself. Her favorite quote is by Erma Bombeck, “When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say ‘I used everything you gave me.’”