We’ve all had bad days.
Some days make you want to go back to bed and begin the day all over again.
Some days progressively become worse and you wonder, “what next?”
Let’s face it, bad days impact all aspects of your life.
You may know how to handle your bad day but what do you do when your spouse is having a bad day?
Do you leave your spouse alone because you have too many things to do?
Do you not even realize their bad day because you’re caught up in your favorite TV series or sports game?
Working with divorced clients, I hear about gaps in relationships. Often the gap is communication — or lack of communication. It’s easy to become so busy that you take your spouse for granted and don’t even realize they’ve had a bad day.
If you value your relationship, then take time to comfort your spouse when they’re having a bad day. Some people just want to vent and be heard. They don’t want or need solutions. They don’t want or need to hear “it’ll get better.” Ask your spouse if they want help solving their issue or if they just need to vent. It’s better not to make assumptions when someone is having a bad day.
The best thing to do when your spouse is having a bad day is to listen. Sharing their frustration will bring you closer — if you take time to listen without distractions such as watching TV or reading texts. Once your spouse is finished, tell them three reasons you love them. It’s very simple but goes a long way, especially if you strive not to be part of the divorce statistic.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Niv Persaud, CFP®, CDFA™, CRPC®, is the Founder of Transition Planning & Guidance, LLC. Life is more than money. It’s about living the lifestyle you want and can afford. For that reason, Niv consults with clients on money, life and work. Her approach capitalizes on techniques she learned throughout her career, including as a management consultant, executive recruiter and financial advisor. Her services include spending plan, financial plan, divorce financial review, life strategy and professional progression. Niv actively gives back to her community through her volunteer efforts. She believes in living life to the fullest by cherishing friendships, enjoying the beauty of nature and laughing often — even at herself. Her favorite quote is by Erma Bombeck, “When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say ‘I used everything you gave me’.”