It’s tough to watch someone you love go through difficult times. Whether they are coping with an illness, job loss, divorce or loss of a spouse – these situations can significantly alter their life. People cope with difficult times in different ways. Some people overshare via social media. Others may retreat from everyone. While it’s difficult to truly understand what someone if going through, you can show your love and support with simple gestures. Here are 5 ways to support your loved one during difficult times.
1- Use your smartphone to record a short message and send via text or email.
2- Send a card letting them know you are thinking of them.
3- Offer to do a specific chore – such as walk their dog, go grocery shopping or even wash their car.
4- Give them a small bag filled with their favorite candy. If you don’t know their favorite candy, then buy Dove chocolates which has a supportive message inside each wrapper.
5- Offer to spend time with them – whether that’s over a cup of coffee or going for a walk. Most importantly, listen and refrain from talking, lecturing or minimizing their feelings.
Since each person handles difficult times differently, follow their lead. If they don’t want to talk, then just be there silently – ready to listen. If you send them something or do something for them, do not expect a thank you. As they move forward in life, they may remember to thank you – but then again they may not. Difficult times can be very stressful and the person you love may not behave in their normal manner. Stay focused on your loved one, not your own feelings. Being there for your loved one during difficult times can be a true test of unconditional love.
Niv Persaud, CFP®, CDFA™, CRPC®, is the Founder of Transition Planning & Guidance, LLC. Life is more than money. It’s about living the lifestyle you want and can afford. For that reason, Niv consults with clients on money, life and work. Her approach capitalizes on techniques she learned throughout her career, including as a management consultant, executive recruiter and as a financial adviser. Her clients tend to be going through a major life transition (new graduate, marriage, growing family, divorce, widow/er, empty nest, etc.). Her services include spending plan, financial plan, divorce financial review, life strategy and professional progression. Niv actively gives back to her community through her volunteer efforts. She believes in living life to the fullest by cherishing friendships, enjoying the beauty of nature and laughing often — even at herself. Her favorite quote is by Erma Bombeck, “When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say ‘I used everything you gave me’.”